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Resources:

Check out our most recent interview: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/have-you-considered/id1527312081?i=1000495688058

Watch our webinar on the Upper Limit Pattern in Relationships: https://hendricks.com/product/big-leap-bridge-class-the-upper-limit-pattern-in-relationship/

Watch our video on "Keeping Sex Alive in a Long Term Relationship" - https://foundationforconsciousliving.org/big-leap-programs/keeping-sex-alive-in-a-long-term-relationship-a-big-leap-bridge-class-recording-with-marlene-and-bob-neufeld/

And watch the video of us and two other couples exploring which tools have been most influential in creating amazing relationships: https://foundationforconsciousliving.org/the-buzz/couples-qa/

Check out Episode 16 - Bob and Marlene Neufeld on Sex and Relationships (The Living Better Podcast) where we are interviewed by Matt and Jodi: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJDuBZ5TKBM

Creativity video on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CkDGxi74k9c


Appreciation video on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qvhpr7DG_Ac


MakingITbigger video on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RzQ6XZKPLDY

Recommended Books:

Magnificent Sex, Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers, by Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph.D. and A. Dana Menard, Ph.D. Routledge, New York & London, 2020

Rekindling Desire, by Barry McCarthy and Emily McCarthy, Routledge, New York & London, 2014

The Wisdom of Menopause, by Christiane Northrup, Bantam Book, Random House, New York, 2001 (especially pages 277 to 307 section on sexual functioning and menopause).

Books to help with relationship issues:

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver, Harmony Books, New York, 1999, 2015

Wired for Love, How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin, PsyD., New Harbinger Publications, Inc. Oakland, CA, 2011.

Book on Play

Play [How It Shapes the Brain Opens the Imagination and Invigorates the Soul] by Stuart Brown and Christopher Vaughan, Avery, 2010.

Our Articles:

Download our e-book from Amazon "13 Ways to Connect With Your Lover"

A Month of Self-Appreciation


Agreements: How to make and keep agreements

Agreements: What to do when agreements are broken


Be Open To Learning

Being With Our Lonely Scared Parts

Blame In Relationships

Broken Trust

Cancer and Sexuality

Celebrating

Clean Pain Or Dirty Pain

Connection - or - Disconnection? It is Your Choice

Conversations its' not worth having (Part 1 - who said what)

Conversations its' not worth having (Part 2 - why did you do that?)

Conversations its' not worth having (Part 3 - who is right?)

Conversations its' not worth having (Part 4 - you are inaccurate or exaggerating)

Conversations it is worth having Part 1 (tossing, revealing, appreciating, making clear agreements)

Conversations it is worth having Part 2 (reflecting, validating, unarguable truth, genuine regret followed by what I plan to do differently)

Conversations it is worth having Part 3 (learning, shifting from "you" or "we" to "I", having fun, taking yourself lightly, laughing at yourself, generating curiosity and wonder)

Conversations it is worth having - Tossing

Conversations - Why do people have the kind of conversations we don't recommend having?

Defensiveness

Desire in long term relationships; the role of willingness

Emotional Literacy

Four Pillars of Integrity

From Entitlement To Appreciation

Give Essense Gifts this Holiday Season

Holding Things In

Honesty: What do you do instead of speaking the truth?

Honesty: Speaking the Unarguable Truth

Honouring Our Teachers

How To Have More Fun This Holiday Season

How To Stop Arguing About Money

How To Take Yourself Lightly

How We Support Our Beliefs (i.e. There Must Be a Reason)

Integrity

Leading With Appreciation

Leading With Gratitude

Learn To Speak In Ways That Do Not Promote An Arguement

Learning to Love Ourselves

Lessons Learned From A Visit With My Son

Listen Generously to Your Partner

Listening Filters (what you do when you aren't listening generously)

Listening Generously: Attitudes, Practices, and how to do it (step by step)


Love Yourself

Loving Kindness In Every Moment

Lying Hurts Your Health

Negative Intent

No First Cause

No More New Years Resolutions!

Opening To Love

Polarization

Projection

Respect!

Revealing

Sharing Household Tasks

Shift Your Attention

Self-Sabotage

Shift from Blame to Healthy Responsibility

Shift From Seeing Yourself as a Victim to Knowing Yourself as a Person of True Creative Power

The Dance Of Relationship: What Step Are You Doing?

The Importance of Attitude/Intention

The Value of Blurting

Toxic Guilt

Uncovering 'Who We Really Are': Personas and the Triangle Game

Unmet Childhood Needs And Negative Intent

Upper Limit Patterns

Upper Limit Patterns (graphic) 

Victim Talk & Responsibility Talk

What Can You Really Control?

What Rules Are You Making Up?

What to Do With Our Feelings

What is more important? - yourself or your relationship?

When you no longer "love" each other

Whose Business Is It?

Why We Don't Recommend Apologies

Withdrawing or Pursuing (Which Step are you doing in the Dance of Relationship)

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